Baby D Makes Three

born December 27, 2012

strangers say the strangest things

I wish strangers would stop trying to terrify my husband about becoming parents. we are not uniformed when it comes to childbearing. we realize our lives will never be the same. we realize there will be nights with no sleep, and worries, and concerns that don’t plague us now. we are not unprepared. so please stop telling my husband how hard it is going to be to have a baby. I’d rather he not be completely freaked out by the time little one arrives. k? thanks.

In other news, pregnancy brain has hit. hard. I find myself standing, wondering why I’ve gotten up in the first place. I have resorted to leaving myself post-it notes so as to not forget the ONE thing I am responsible for bringing with me to a barbeque. or so that I don’t sit at my desk for 3 hours wondering, just what was I working on before I left the office yesterday.

in all the reading I did to prepare for this pregnancy, I learned sleeping on your back is a no-no somewhere in the second trimester, and sleeping on your stomach is uber uncomfortable, so that leaves your sides. I also read that the left side is more preferable to the right – something to do with blood flow, I don’t remember (see previous paraghraph). but I have always been a right side of the bed, right side of my body (if I’m on my side at all) sleeper. I can’t face the middle of the bed. it weirds me out (I know. I am the weird one. I’m used to it). so when we found out we were expecting, I immediately forced hubs to switch sides of the bed with me so that I could ‘train’ myself to sleep on my left side. it was miserable. I toss and turn, I wake up to adjust myself constantly, and I have aches and pains I never had before. the only good sleep I was getting was on those mornings when hubs would get up early to go biking, and leave the bed to me. what made this good sleep? I would turn to the middle of the bed, on my right side, and find perfect comfort. I finally determined sleeping on my left side is miserable, and the fact that I am tired and uncomfortable, and downright sleep deprived cannot be better for baby than my getting a good night sleep. so I switched sides of the bed with hubs again (sorry babe, thank you for being so accomodating of the crazy). I slept sooo much better last night and felt amazing when I woke up.

::end ramble:: 😛


i want to TEST!

the two week wait is torture for a woman trying to conceive. TORTURE! basically, pregnancy tests can pick up the hCG hormone between 12-15 days post ovulation (on average). so you wait and you wait and you want to test the WHOLE time. because you just want to be pregnant already. and there are women out there who were able to find out 6 days after ovulation. I promised myself I wouldn’t become a psychotic pee on a stick-aholic. I wouldn’t succumb to that urge to just try and see. and here I am 11 days post ovulation and I’ve been at work for 2 hours, the whole time obsessing over if I could test tomorrow morning. yup, I’ve become that girl. the one who is not productive, and is basically insane, mumbling to myself in the hallway about tests, and timing, and basically freaking everybody out in my building (ok, so there is no mumbling, or freaking everybody out, but there is a lot of googling – because if it’s on the internet it must be true).

some of you may be thinking – what’s the big deal, just go pee on a stick, stop making yourself crazy. there are a couple of reasons hubs and I are pretty adamant about waiting to test until there is a very likely chance of the test being accurate. For one, if you test too early, it might turn up a big fat negative because the hCG isn’t strong enough to be detected. and who wants a constant let down every morning? second, there is a chance that you can get an early big fat positive (YAY) but then end up with a chemical pregnancy (early miscarriage) and who wants that kind of a let down? and last, have you seen just how expensive those babies are? I mean, we are trying to prepare financially for a baby people; we can’t be spending that kind of dough just because I want to pee on a stick every 2 minutes hours.

so I will wait. semi-patiently. if any of you have been following along with the math, today is Friday, that means if Aunt Flow hasn’t visited by Monday, I will be at 14 days past ovulation. hubs and I have the day off. it sure would be a special day if we could celebrate the start of our new life.

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we have baby FEVER!

ok, I suppose I should clarify. I have had baby fever since I realized babies were cute and cuddly and needed someone to love them. so probably since I was five :P.  but it was more of a general, I want babies someday type of fever. then I met my hubby. and all of those hypothetical baby wishes started looking like reality. we have four close friends with babies (that’s right I’m talking about you T, S, J, and M). I love cuddling their babies. I love rocking them and playing with them. and the more time I spend with the babies, the more our (ok) my desire for a baby of our own grew. so we started to prepare and plan. and then we ditched the birth control. and now I have a completely healthy obsession with all things baby related. I read baby blogs, I lurk on TTC (trying to conceive) forums, and I read articles and books about pregnancy and conceiving, and try to figure out ways to increase our chances. we have officially been trying for 2 cycles now, and while I know most healthy couples take 6 – 12 months to conceive, I’m already impatient.

on hubby’s part, he is super supportive of my crazy. he lets me discuss the pros and cons of diaper bags I’ve found on blogs and he doesn’t complain when I send him pictures of baby related things ALL DAY LONG. but he keeps me grounded: “Honey, I’m pretty sure it’s too early to actually buy the diaper bag.” which I love him for. and while he isn’t as consumed by the fever as I am, I know he is excited. he has asked on more than one occasion “are you pregnant yet?” and chimes in to conversations with knowledge that could only come from doing a little of his own online research. 

so while I’m pretty sure the only cure to his fever is pregnancy, in the meantime I have the love and support from an amazing man who is going to make a fantastic father. What more could a girl ask for (except for maybe a baby :P)?

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Hello world!

Welcome to Baby D Makes Three. This will be a place for me to share my thoughts, feelings, and let’s face it, frustrations during our quest to “start” our family (this phrase has always tickled me a little because we already are a family…it’s just a family of two that we are trying to expand to three 😛 but I digress). This will be a place where I can share with my family and friends our journey into parenthood and raising children. But as it is a blog, on the internet, and totally findable by anyone, I thought maybe I should make introductions so you know who we are and where we stand.

The D’s married on 10~10~10. We love God and we love each other. And we want to love a child. We own a home, have steady jobs, and have an amazing support system through our family, friends, and our church.  

I’m sure if you follow this blog you will learn more about us than you ever thought you wanted to know.

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